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Gucci Mane’s Proposal: Romantic or Nah?

If you’ve been on social media for even 5 minutes, you know that rapper Gucci Mane proposed to his ride-or-die girlfriend, Keyshia Ka’oir last night. #TheWopsters met in 2010 during one of Gucci’s video shoots and have been inseparable ever since. While Gucci was in and out of jail, Keyshia stood by his side, and has waited for him each time that he was released.

The couple sat courtside at the Atlanta Hawks game and garnered the attention of the arena as the “kiss cam” landed on them. To Keyshia’s surprise, Gucci denied her kiss, but stood up and presented her with a 25 karat engagement ring.

We are not clear on his exact words, but Gucci opened the box and slid the ring on her finger and the crowd went crazy. In total shock, Keyshia stood up and received roses from the mascot and flashed the enormous ring that casually weighed down her finger.

Don’t get me wrong, I am genuinely happy for the couple and Gucci’s gesture toward monogamy and eternal love. But something didn’t sit well with me as I saw my peers praising Gucci on Twitter for this proposal.


Call me old fashioned, but I want a man to get on one knee and ask for my hand in marriage. I don’t want him to just put the ring on my finger as he stands up.

A part of love, whether we like it or not, is being vulnerable when it comes to your significant other. It means stepping out of your comfort zone and compromising. Although just a spectator from the outside looking in, I didn’t see that from Gucci in his proposal. Some folks may say, “Who cares if he didn’t get on one knee? He gave her a 25 karat ring.” Well, if the size of the ring overshadows my love for a person, then I don’t want it.

All of the long-lasting marriages that I am surrounded by are old fashioned. They took the words “to death to us part” as something to live by. My great grandparents were married for 71 years until my great-grandfather made his transition. My great aunt and uncle were married for 63 years until both of their earthly departures.

In 2016, I acknowledge that everything, including love does not have to be so traditional. We don’t have to fit in a certain standard and couples are free to celebrate love the way they want. I respect progressive proposals and relationships, but some things I just can’t budge on. Some things have worked for so long, why should we change it?

Will Gucci be setting the tone for proposals to come? Will men now think it’s okay not to get on one knee and just hand you a ring? What are your thoughts? Vote in the poll below!