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3 Misconceptions About Women

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It’s 2016, and women are kicking in the boardroom door and storming into the corporate scene with a vengeance. In honor of all the women who rallied and fought for our rights, we show no mercy in the pursuit of our passions. The climate has changed drastically, and the modern woman has completely shifted the culture of women’s gender roles in America.

All is glorious as we rumble through piles of literature, negotiate for equal wages, and work late nights to climb the corporate ladder. Life is pleasant until we are faced with the unrelenting pressures of family or society, forcing us to question if we making the right decision by choosing to chase a purpose that doesn’t include being a home manager.

In a world where things are black and white, there is no gray area. Divided between wanting to pursue a livelihood that exists outside of the home and wanting to feeling pressured to meet the request of society, a heated game of tug of war has ignited.

Women are wrestling with the never-ending challenge of trying to navigate through their work life, while trying to amicably balance the responsibilities of the home. We are hungry for personal success, and refuse to abandon our dreams for the sake of love and family. Call us greedy, but we want it all. We want to feel empowered in our careers and needed in our homes.

In a sincere attempt to appease family and self, we become tormented by the decision. Do we slide into comfortable shoes and walk the trail of our ancestors, or step into the stilettos and pave a new path of our own?

The discussion lingers. Have old-fashioned morals and values become obsolete and constraining, OR have women completely forgone their duties to the home in order to pursue gains and riches?

Often receiving backlash when compared to “old fashion” women, modern women catch a great deal of heat for their role in taking women out of the home.

For the sake of argument, let’s examine a few common misconceptions about the modern woman.

Misconception #1: Old fashion women make family a priority while modern women neglect their duties.

Without argument, old fashion women embody what it means to have a sacrificial heart. These women have perfected the art of servant leadership. They organize, plan, execute, and lead their families into greatness by maintaining their homes, so their husbands can provide. These women skills in the home rival those of women making executive decisions in the boardroom, but they are both powerful in their own regards. The truth is, this position requires emotional stability, patience, and executive decision making skills as well.

Modern women are not choosing to enter into the workforce as a means to evade household responsibilities. On the contrary, these women are instinctively motivated by the need to provide and sustain the home. Contrary to common belief, modern women take pride in being in tune with their femininity, but everything is about balance. We are not opposed to preparing meals. We understand our children need our nurturing and guidance and we adore tending to our significant others…especially if that person is tending to the home in a manner that eases our load. We just need everything in moderation.

The principal difference between the old fashion woman and the modern is we are not 100% fulfilled by being a homemaker. While we love certain elements of being a caregiver to our family, we desperately need outside fulfillment.

It’s also imperative that we call attention to the change in culture as it pertains to men and their, “gender roles.” Historically, men have been labeled the “providers.” It was under these conditions that women were able to afford to stay out of the workforce and in the home. Things have significantly changed and most households now require two incomes to maintain, because men are no longer the primary breadwinners. Some women have been forced into the workforce. The pleasures of being a “stay at home” mom/wife is not afforded to all. Those pleasures are shortly enjoyed when they are faced with the responsibility of producing income.

Misconception #2: Old fashion women are modest and engaged in exclusive courtship while modern women are untamed, self-absorbed and rebellious.

Historically, young women were expected to relinquish personal desires of formal education, political voice, and careers in order to fulfill the agenda of their spouses. The permission for excitement and thrill were non-existent.

Industrialization, economic strain, and emerging social and political movements pushed women into the workforce with no mercy. Over the years, the dynamics of relationships have changed. Women have been forced to step into the role of provider in order to maintain the home.

Misconception #3: Old fashion women make better wives because they are deeply rooted in habitual morals and values.

Without debate, there is great value in a woman who remains true to her eagerness to tend to her relationship and family. However, this alone does not make her more suitable for marriage than the modern woman.

The reality is that both women have the potential to be great partners and wives. It is crucial for us to give honor and respect to our guiding principles, while having empathy for the evolving woman and changing times.

The one thing that poses no argument is that fact that most women, modern or traditional, have a, “By any means necessary” mentality. We do what is required to cultivate life and advance our families.

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Jazz Keyes is a community activist, poetess and a nationally certified Life Purpose and Career Coach. Keyes supplies clients with the necessary tools and techniques to awaken their divine energy, heal their open wounds and create an aura of love, compassionate and tranquility. In 2013,  Keyes was named “13 People to Watch For” by Rockford Register Star and in honor of Black History Month 2014, Keyes was recently named a“Neighborhood Hero” by ComEd’s Power of One Campaign. Keyes in currently pursuing her Masters in Clinical Psychology and hopes to one day be a best-selling author and motivational speaker. She has devoted a great deal of her time and energy on mastering the art of communication in order to create healthy, dynamic, long-lasting relationships.