“She’s Pretty Like I’m Pretty”
When doll shopping, many little girls either try to get dolls that look like them or just go with the doll they think is pretty. The latter was the case for South Carolina toddler, Sophia, when her mother let pick out a doll at Target as a reward for doing well in potty training.
Sophia selected a Black doll and while paying, the cashier tried to convince Sophia to choose a White doll that looked like her.
“She doesn’t look like you,” said the cashier. “We have lots of other dolls that look more like you.”
But Sophia stayed with her decision saying, “Yes, she does. She’s a doctor like I’m a doctor. And I’m a pretty girl and she’s a pretty girl. See her pretty hair? And see her stethoscope?”
Sophia’s mother, Brandi Benner, shared this story on her Facebook and Instagram accounts and it has since gone viral.
Nick and I told Sophia that after 1 whole month of going poop on the potty, she could pick out a special prize at Target. She, of course, picked a new doll. The obsession is real. While we were checking out, the cashier asked Sophia if she was going to a birthday party. We both gave her a blank stare. She then pointed to the doll and asked Sophia if she picked her out for a friend. Sophia continued to stare blankly and I let the cashier know that she was a prize for Sophia being fully potty trained. The woman gave me a puzzled look and turned to Sophia and asked, “Are you sure this is the doll you want, honey?” Sophia finally found her voice and said, “Yes, please!” The cashier replied, “But she doesn’t look like you. We have lots of other dolls that look more like you.” I immediately became angry, but before I could say anything, Sophia responded with, “Yes, she does. She’s a doctor like I’m a doctor. And I’m a pretty girl and she’s a pretty girl. See her pretty hair? And see her stethoscope?” Thankfully the cashier decided to drop the issue and just answer, “Oh, that’s nice.” This experience just confirmed my belief that we aren’t born with the idea that color matters. Skin comes in different colors just like hair and eyes and every shade is beautiful. #itswhatsontheinsidethatcounts #allskinisbeautiful #teachlove #teachdiversity #thenextgenerationiswatching
Benner said she was surprised at the cashier trying to convince her daughter to buy a White doll.
“This experience just confirmed my belief that we aren’t born with the idea that color matters,” she wrote. “Skin comes in different colors just like hair and eyes and every shade is beautiful.”
Benner went on to write on her Facebook page about the encounter, “And as I explained before, the cashier was an elderly woman and I believe she was completely ignorant to what she was truly saying. I feel like in her mind she was being helpful and making conversation with my daughter.”
“I’m not saying her ignorance makes it ok, just proves her white privilege. I’ve also had a few people accuse me of making this story up and that is just hilarious to me. That post was only supposed to be for my friends and family…I never could have predicted it would spread like wildfire! But I’m thankful it did. Because in something as simple as a Facebook post, people have been able to see God’s love shine through my daughter. I am humbled and in awe of his love.”