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Yes, You Can Be Happy at Work!

A number of people are unhappy with their job, employer, or work environment and often feel stuck for one reason or another. While you may be unable to quit your job now, there are some easy things you can do to be happier at work.

For the purposes of this article, I will highlight three things you can do to be happier not only at work, but in your personal life.

1) Choose to be happy. Yes, happiness is a choice and once you choose to be happy, it will be easier for you to behave in ways that are consistent with your decision. Believe it or not, you have already chosen whether or not you will be happy. If you have already determined what you do and don’t want, what is good and bad, you’re going to have a hard time being happy. The reason is because we usually don’t get what we want right away; it takes time. Ergo, happiness isn’t always about getting what you want, but wanting what you get.

This doesn’t mean that you should just accept everything that comes your way. It means that you should make choices that move you towards experiences that bring you happiness, and be grateful for those things that come into your life. This requires a lot of patience, planning, and consistency, most of which we all fall short of from time to time.

So what should you do if something comes your way that really is not aligned with your happiness? Easy, thank the Universe, God, or your Higher Self (whatever works for you), for showing you that you are moving away from your happiness. Then, start to make choices that take you in the direction you want to go.

2) Create a plan to be happy. Yes, you have to plan for your happiness – at least in the beginning. When you become accustomed to being happy, unhappiness will have a difficult time getting into your personal space. The best way to plan for your happiness is to give your time.

This may seem counterintuitive at first because everyone wants to make the most of every minute. However, think about how much it costs you to rush around and operate on overdrive most of the time. Operating at top speed most of the day usually costs you patience, motivation, compassion, and clear thinking. This is a high price to pay and what you end up with is negativity, sloppy work, poor service, and an overall sense that you dislike your job.

So how do you create a plan to be happy?

That’s pretty straightforward. You give yourself the time you need to go through your day with flow and grace. Entering a state of “flow” is best done by preparing for your day the previous night. You’d be surprised at how setting out your clothes, packing lunch, and having your keys in the same place can get your morning going smoothly. Getting enough sleep and waking up 15 minutes earlier than you need to can help you ease into the day with a calm, level head. That 15 minutes can be used to have coffee, meditate, or simply relax. Last but not least, buffer your time at work by getting there 10 minutes early and get a sense of what your day will look like. Schedule at least a 5-minute recharge at your desk so you can feel refreshed throughout the day.

3) Increase positive interactions. Yes, you can even do this with the most unpleasant people. If you don’t remember anything, remember this, “What you see in the world is a reflection of you.” Choose to see at least one good thing in every situation and person, despite how tempted you may be to stay focused on the negative.

If you try the following, after a short while, you’ll notice your disposition will become more pleasant and so will those around you.

1) Smile and greet your colleagues by name.

2) Compliment them on something they are doing or wearing.

3) Socialize when you see them at the coffee machine or on the elevator. 

When you encounter negativity, and it’s bound to happen, simply find something useful in the exchange and express it to the person. For example, if your boss constantly nags you about needing to take lunch at the same time, you could respond by saying, “Thank you so much for noticing. I would love to take my lunch at the same time everyday, but it’s difficult because of ever changing deadlines. It’s important that things run smoothly so I am fine with taking my lunch a little earlier or later if it’s okay with you. But, if you’d prefer I take it at the same time everyday, I can let people know so they can make adjustments to their projects. Just let me know what you’d prefer.”

I hope this was helpful! If you want to learn what else you can do to be happy at work, take a look at the e-book, “Yes, You Can Be Happy at Work!”

With love and light, I wish you pleasant journeys.

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW

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Jinnie Cristerna, affectionately known as “The High Achievers Therapist”, works with talented people to help them release emotional pain and psychological roadblocks so they can achieve their personal and professional goals. Specializing in clinical and spiritual psychotherapy, heart centered hypnotherapy, vibrational energy, meditation, Yhandi and RoHun.  Sign up for Jinnie’s High Achiever newsletter, join her on Facebook and Twitter, or view her self-help books!