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Why Positive Affirmations Don’t Work

Today’s post answers a very common question about affirmations: How do I get them to work for me?

While some people swear by their affirmations, others wonder why they don’t work for them or have stopped working after a bit of time has passed. I hope the following answers your question.

Before we begin, it’s important to know that we all talk to ourselves – some more than others. When we have these “conversations,” we aim to do one of three things: 1) validate how we think and feel about ourselves, 2) try to change our perception or experience about a situation or ourselves (which is usually negative) or, 3) enhance our good qualities.

When we want to validate, enhance or change a particular quality, outcome, or behavior, we may choose to use an affirmation or two. For example, if you wanted to build up your confidence before an interview, you may say something like, “You are qualified and you’ve got this!” several times in the mirror and as you make the trek to the interview. After saying your affirmation, you might feel a sense of confidence, passion, and focus.

The problem is that it may not last very long. The reason affirmations give you a burst of energy but lose its intensity and longevity is because you may not actually believe what you are saying.

The key to affirmations working is that you have to actually identify and release the faulty thought the affirmation is trying to replace. If the faulty thought isn’t identified and replaced, then you are merely trying to convince yourself of something you inherently believe is untrue. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is the reason affirmations don’t work or lose their power over time.

Now, you may be wondering, “How do I identify and release the faulty thought I want to replace?” That’s a great question!

Truth be told, it’s not something that you can identify on your own; at least not in the short run. The reason you’re unlikely to identify which thoughts are faulty thoughts on your own is because our single thoughts are the accumulation of our past feelings and experiences. And, any misconceptions in our experiences will carry over into the thoughts that we form about who we are and the situations we find ourselves in.

A seasoned therapist is often best trained to systematically help you tease through the thoughts that limit or prevent you from growing. The key to great therapy isn’t just identifying the faulty thought, but releasing it so it can be replaced with one that better fits who you are now. Usually, therapists who are trained in RoHun, Yhandi, or heart-centered hypnotherapy are able to do this in 3-5 sessions, but traditional psychotherapists are helpful as well!

I hope this was helpful and wish you all pleasant journeys!

With love and light …

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW

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Jinnie Cristerna, affectionately known as “The High Achievers Therapist”, works with talented people to help them release emotional pain and psychological roadblocks so they can achieve their personal and professional goals. Specializing in psychotherapy, heart centered hypnotherapy, vibrational energy, meditation, and RoHun.  Sign up for Jinnie’s High Achiever newsletter here or join her on Facebook and Twitter!