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How to Survive the Holidays

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The holidays are fast approaching and, for some dread is in the air. If you’re looking to do something different this year, here are some tips that can help you create a memorable holiday season.

Set Your Intention. Do you know someone who anticipates the worst when his or her family comes together? If so, they are setting the intention to have drama – even if they are not directly involved in it. This year, set the intention of enjoying yourself and those around you by accepting who they are without judgment. Whenever we judge or anticipate the worst, we give energy to the thing that brings us unhappiness. On the other hand, when we expect the best and look forward to the unique personalities of our friends and families, we have a better time and enjoy their company more.

Ditch the Drama. On the other hand, if you know that there will be drama at Christmas this year, you can do a few things: 1) consider not going, 2) stay for a short amount of time, 3) don’t participate in the drama, or 4) leave as soon as the drama begins to erupt. While this may not seem feasible for everyone, if you have the ability to remove yourself from negativity then it can be an option.

Do Something Different. It’s fun and healthy to mix things up a bit from time to time around the holidays. While there are traditions that some families follow, taking a break from the traditional holiday celebration can give rise to new memories and traditions. This can also help break up any negativity or resentments that are rooted in unhealthy traditions by bringing in new energy and perhaps a new beginning. An easy way to do this is to have celebrations at another location or with a smaller group of family members.

Do you have any tips that people can use to create holiday magic? Please share them with us below!

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW

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