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What is a Faulty Thought?

If you keep repeating the same patterns in your life and want to break free from them, then you may be stuck in a faulty thought pattern! The age-old question still remains, “Why does this keep happening to me?” While the answer is simple, it eludes many: You believe it should happen to you.

Now, you’re probably wondering, “Why would I want to keep having bad things happen to me?! You’re wrong!” I may be, but just indulge me for a moment.

Let’s make this a little easier to access and use an example. Do you know someone who can’t seem to find a long-term mate or partner? If so, what do you notice about what they do? Do they complain, pick emotionally unavailable people, or something else?

Take a moment and think about it.

Now, have you ever tried to tell them what you’ve observed about what they do that keeps them from getting what they want? Chances are that either you or someone else has and chances are they struggled to receive it.

So what does this have to do with a faulty thought? Well, a faulty thought is something that we believe to be true about us that we are unaware of. For example, I don’t deserve to be loved; no one could ever love me; I am ugly inside and out, love is wasted on me, etc.

The faulty thought is fueled by each experience that confirms the thought. So, if a person believes that no one could ever love them, every time a romantic relationship doesn’t work, it validates the faulty thought. The more the person experiences heartbreak, the more they believe that no one could ever love them.

The good news is that each of us has the power to change our faulty thoughts, and we have enough to keep us working for a lifetime or two. Below is the process to identify and clear your faulty thoughts so you can start creating the life you want immediately:

1) Identify the faulty thought you want to change. This is tricky because you want to connect with the core negative thought that resonates with you at the deepest emotional level. This thought is challenging to identify because it is often a thought we reject or deny about ourselves. If we deny what we think something about our self, then we can’t own it.

2) Identify the feeling that fuels the thought. Think of this as the gas that keeps the thought running. So, if a person believes that no one could ever love them and this thought is fueled by feelings of rejection, you may see them give up on love. If we take this a step further, every time they feel rejected, they give up.

3) Ask yourself, “How do I do that?” This allows you to see the role you play in creating the situations that fuel the emotion, which validates the belief. So when it’s all said and done, you walk away with another experience that confirms the faulty thought. Every time a faulty thought is confirmed, the truth of who you are and the power you have to create the life you want begins to disappear.

4) Identify the truth the faulty thought keeps you from seeing. For example, if all we see is how unlovable we are, it keeps us from seeing (and feeling) how loved we truly are.

5) Release the faulty thought and replace it with love. Letting go of the faulty thought can only occur with self-awareness and realization of the role you play in sustaining it. There are many ways to release faulty thoughts; one way is guided meditation.

In the end, we have the power to create a life of pain or pleasure. We can only begin to use that power in very specific ways once we connect with the truths that are hard for us to face.

I find that people have great success in this area using RoHun and Yhandi. While both are great for healing and forgiveness, clients who want immediate results should try Yhandi first.

Yhandi focuses more on creating the life you want now and many have experienced things changing instantly when they are done with their sessions. It’s actually a great tool for coaching since many people want to find and actualize their passion and purpose!

To learn more visit: www.HighAchiever.net.

I hope this was helpful. As always, with love and light, I wish you all pleasant journeys!

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW

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Jinnie Cristerna, affectionately known as “The High Achievers Therapist”, works with talented people to help them release emotional pain and psychological roadblocks so they can achieve their personal and professional goals. Specializing in clinical and spiritual psychotherapy, heart centered hypnotherapy, vibrational energy, meditation, and RoHun.  Sign up for Jinnie’s High Achiever newsletter here or join her on Facebook and Twitter!