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6 Simple Steps to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution

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We understand.  Sometimes, problems with romantic relationships,  friendships, career or family life get you down. And we want to help. That’s why JET is working with therapist, Jinnie Cristerna, who will take your questions and offer some sage, sanity-restoring advice and insight every Tuesday. 

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW, CHt.

Jinnie Cristerna, LCSW, CHt.

The new year is upon us and many of you will have some sort of resolution such as: have better relationships, stop dating losers, or get rid of negativity, for example.

Here are my questions to you: Are you tired of making New Year’s resolutions that you don’t keep? Do you begin the year off with a bang only to go on a binge February 1st-ish? Or, do you just want to make a solid resolution you can actually keep? If you answered, yes, then you MUST read this blog!

To make sure you achieve your New Year’s resolution, I’m going to tell you what I tell my private clients and it works every time. However, in order for it to work, you have to do it the way I tell you. If you need help, I am hosting a FREE WEBINAR you can attend on Saturday, January 4th at 9 a.m. CST that will show you how to create a solid New Year’s resolution; the link is at the end of the blog.

Here is the formula:

1) Write down your main goal – BE SPECIFIC.

2) Break that goal up into no more than 12 objectives. It could be less, but they have to be specific.

3) Put your objectives in ascending order. In other words, what do you feel needs to get done first before you can progress in your goal? What is key here is ‘YOU’ and your judgement. If you feel you need to begin with exercising, then start there; if you feel you need to begin with food management, then start there. There really is no right or wrong way to begin. The nicest part is that you can always rearrange the order if you find a better flow!

4) Assign each objective to a month(s) in order of progression. One objective can take two or more months. What is important is to be realistic in how long you think it will take you to achieve that objective.

5) Now, identify at least one, but no more than four small behaviors that will help you achieve that objective. Again, you have to be specific regarding the behavior. You may notice that the behaviors are the same, similar, or build on one another.

6) Measure your progress every week. Did you adhere to the behavior that you listed for each objective? Did the outcome bring you closer to your goal? If so, move to the next objective – even if you achieved it early. If you did not achieve the objective on time, simply adjust the time frame on your calendar for your objective. Keep in mind that some objectives will be achieved earlier than expected while others may take longer. Either way, it’s OK.

If you notice that you’ve reached your goal before the end of the year, give yourself a high-five and keep going! Whatever you do, don’t stop. The key is to make your resolution a lifestyle and the best way to do that is through behavior modification. Maintaining that lifestyle requires developing healthy habits over time so your behavior becomes natural.

Now for the fine print, before penning your New Year’s resolution it is important that you know not every goal is the same. There are two types of goals: behavioral and emotional. While both types of goals have a behavioral component, emotional goals require more support. When working on resolutions such as becoming less angry, or choosing mates who are not abusive, you may want to give serious consideration to working with a therapist or reputable life coach who has a clinical background.

Working with someone requires a financial investment on your end; however, those costs can be offset by insurance in most cases. This is one of those investments that will pay for itself in the long run and help you achieve your goals with more ease and speed than if done on your own. Nonetheless, the choice is yours.

Now, here is the link to register to attend the FREE WEBINAR: New Year, New You!

I hope you found this helpful. Here’s to wishing you a wonderful and prosperous new year!

With love and light …

Jinnie

Do you have a question for Jinnie? Email us at digitalpitches@ebony.com. We’ll be sure to keep it anonymous and confidential. You can also learn more about our “Moment of Clarity” JET therapist via:

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Twitter: @intlachievers

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