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How to Build Better Relationships

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It doesn’t matter what your expectations or motives are when building relationships. You have to first prove yourself, before expecting anything in return because they’re looking to see what your first move will be, before even considering moving forward. In any new relationship, there is also a sense of vulnerability, and people like to know that they can trust you. So in order to build a strong personal or professional relationship, you must first establish trust! Be who you say you are, be on time, respect boundaries and show yourself to be friendly. It’s not difficult to detect a pretentious person, which can prove to be detrimental to the building blocks and establishing a foundation, therefore authenticity is essential. If this person can be a potential partner or investor, and you have already proven you’re an asset, they will likely look to you as a trusted partner, resource and asset.

What Are You Bringing To The Table?

People do not like the feeling of being used. In any relationship, it is give and take. The relationships you form will be pivotal in its success. Don’t expect what you’re not willing to offer in return. You already know what you have to offer, and now it’s time for you to show this, and make others want what you have, in no uncertain circumstances. Don’t be cocky or arrogant, but certainly do your homework on the other person, and offer them solutions. This is where the selfless part of you will come into play. In order to show yourself worthy and valuable, you have to be willing to show your hand. Transparency is vital, and helps in establishing a rapport. If you’re looking for a return on your investment, be willing to give without expecting anything in return.

Effective Communication

Poor communication can lead to blame, misunderstanding, resentment and unnecessary strife in relationships. Your tone is also a clear indicator of your frame of mind. If you are trying to build the morale or encourage someone, raising your voice will only aggravate them and lead to both parties becoming frustrated. Just because you don’t understand the way that someone may operate or handle particular situations, or because they don’t do things the way you do, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. When you don’t understand something, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Maybe the other person doesn’t understand either, but open and honest communication can clear up any misperception. Asking questions leads to authenticating a clear connection and understanding of expectations from both factions. Differences are actually important, because it balances the relationship, teaches both parties to compromise and opens your mind to consider both perspectives.

Mutual Respect

Every relationship offers value, and it doesn’t matter who has more experience. Never make it appear as if you’re the authority on every subject. Showing respect comes with humility. The goal is to establish mutual respect and trust and work toward a common goal. It is important that you take a genuine interest in their viewpoint, and not be deceptive. Ask feasible questions and listen to their ideas and answers. We all have something to offer and learning NEVER STOPS. Maybe you both are in two completely different fields, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a mutual dotted line to reaching your goals. Considering the relationships we build are due to networking and who we know, you never know who that person knows, that can connect you with the right resources.

How to Sustain the Relationship

Protect your integrity by keeping your word. We fail to sustain healthy and strong relationships due to our lack of follow through. During, and well after, you have established the relationship, you have to remain hard at work to keep the lines of communication and trust open. If you promised something, deliver on that promise  or at least provide viable resources. Gratitude is always reciprocated when people feel valued, and not just treated as if they’re another connection or networking liaison. Communication should not always be on the telephone or email. Meet for lunch or dinner, and maintain that tangible and personal connection. You don’t have to become best friends with them, but learning more about your colleagues, helps you to better understand their behavioral patterns, and build stronger partnerships, but it’s also an open opportunity to continue building blocks to more sustainable relationships.

About Terry Connor

Terry C

Terry D. is a renowned Healthy Relationship Coach, Blogger, Public Speaker and Editor-in-Chief of Love Chapters. It is her personal experiences that have afforded her the opportunity to share what she has learned with other singles who are seeking to turn the page and write their next chapter of love.

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