Wedding Wisdom

Wedding Wisdom: Saying “I do” for Time Number Two

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Welcome to Wedding Wisdom! Every week, JET experts will help you plan your dream nuptials from engagement to “I do.” This week, wedding planner and bride-to-be Tami Smallwood, CEO of blush|WEDDING and EVENT PLANNING FIRM,  gives advice on second time weddings or renewing your vows.

Photo courtesy of Cellar Door Photography.

Photo courtesy of Cellar Door Photography.

What do rocker Tina Turner and reality star turned actress, NeNe Leakes have in common?

Well, besides long beautiful legs and stunning good looks these two divas both said, “I do” this year for the second time.

There was a time when couples getting married (again) only went for the subdued celebration. A white suit and pillbox hat for some brides, an everyday suit for their grooms and a trip down to City Hall would be their best effort.

These days the second wedding around can be just as lavish as some couples’ first, if not better. Why? Because this growing demographic of couples can throw out all the rules AND keep all the opulence. Let’s look at a few of our favorite celebs who did right the second time around.

Skip the white, be bold: Perhaps you wore white during your first wedding.  This time, make a statement in a rich color that will take your guests’ breath away.  Turbulence, Acai, and Samba from Pantone’s 2013 fall color palette are great ideas.  Tina Turner turned to Giorgio Armani for her green taffeta and black silk tulle gown embellished with Swarovski crystals. And who could forget, Cynthia Bailey’s platinum wedding gown? Gorgeous!

Make your children (and grandchildren, if you have them) part of the ceremony: If you have the luxury of a long walk down the aisle, each of your offspring can meet you along the way with a small bouquet, creating a full-bodied bouquet when you reach the altar.  When gospel singers, Tamela and David Mann renewed their vows, each of their eight grandchildren participated in the ceremony. The little ones dressed as little princes and princesses and made up the couples’ entire bridal party. How adorable?

Do it your way: Most brides have something they wish they would have done differently when they got married the first time.  Think about how to make your wedding dreams come true and consider this a second chance in more ways than one.  Take that thing and execute! Look at our girl, Nene. She went over the top this time and we love it!

Lose the rules, but keep the etiquette: Because of the commonality of the second wedding, there are tons of resources available to help with things like wording on invitations and seating arrangements for your former in-laws. Make sure your stationery is consistent with the proper etiquette for second timers. If you did not revert back to your maiden name, wording invites can be challenging.

Most importantly, do what you didn’t get to do for your first wedding. If a lack of finances held you back before or naivete kept you from making the bold decisions you would today, let nothing stop you from making your wedding dreams come true.

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