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How to Incorporate Kids into Your Wedding

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Welcome to Wedding Wisdom! Every week, wedding planner Tami Smallwood-Brown, CEO of  blush|WEDDING & EVENT PLANNING FIRM gives tips to help you plan your dream nuptials from engagement to “I do.” This week, Tami gives advice on incorporating the kiddies on your Big Day.

Photo courtesy of Cellar Door Photography.

Photo courtesy of Cellar Door Photography.

Selecting your bridesmaids and groomsmen may seem like a piece of cake when compared to choosing the children for your bridal party. There are so many questions surrounding children’s involvement with weddings: Should they be allowed to attend? What is the most appropriate age for a flower girl? How will they stay entertained during the reception? What should they wear? Hopefully, this week’s article will be helpful during your planning period.

Below are a few things to keep in mind when selecting your kiddie attendants:

A good age for flower girls and ring bearers is 6 years old. At this age, they can take directions well and tend not to be as intimidated by the large number of adults “awww-ing” at them as they come down the aisle.

Babies are okay to make a grand entrance, just make sure that it is safe. If you are using a wagon, make sure the child is safely strapped in and the person pulling the wagon is old enough to maneuver it down the aisle.

If selecting younger flower girls, steer away from fresh pomander balls. They tend to be heavier in weight and younger girls have a hard time stopping themselves from picking the fresh flowers off; however, flower baskets work well for toddler-aged attendants.

pomander ball

Fancy attire for the little ones

The children should be just as snazzy as the grownups. Here are a few ideas to keep your little guys and girls looking sharp. Make sure that their look is consistent with the rest of the bridal party and the overall feel of the wedding.

Try to delay dressing the children for as long as possible on the wedding day. Not only are children less concerned about the appearance of their threads than adults, simply transitioning children in a car can create a small problem.  Imagine all the wrinkles your flower girl will have in her pretty dress after a car ride while buckled in her car seat.

Don’t forget about undergarments for little girls.  Many flower girl dresses have tulle underneath which can be very itchy. Adding a slip may guard against the itchy undercoat and minimize the need to fuss. You can purchase the slip separately or have a seamstress mend it to the dress.

child attendants

Keep the kiddies busy

Consider a separate kids’ lounge to occupy the little ones. There are childcare companies that specialize in supervising children at weddings. If you have 10 or more kids attending, this is a good option. I always design the children’s lounge with fun décor and kid-friendly meal service to make sure they feel special, too. The childcare group will bring games and activities for the various age groups to keep them all happy and entertained.

If you have eight or fewer children, opt for a children’s table. Complete the special table with creative centerpieces and lots of cool goodies. This setup is ideal for an adult-only wedding reception – the children in the bridal party can hang out at their own table.

kids table

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YOUR TURN: Tell us how you incorporate the kiddies into your wedding day?