Tying the Knot: The Groom’s Perspective
All of these beautiful flowers and wedding dresses, and I’m just over here in my rental tuxedo. That’s typically the attitude of the everyday groom. Your main job is to show up on time, be sober, and remember the rings (technically, that last part is the best man’s job, but I digress).
Well, I’m not like other grooms.
I have my feelings on the venue, on the centerpieces, and on the music. Oh man, the MUSIC! Now I wouldn’t say that I have a Type A personality (I’m definitely more laid back), but I do have my moments when I can obsess over something so small as the very second L’Oreal and I are first introduced as husband and wife. For reference, my choice for entrance music is Jay Z’s “Public Service Announcement,” and we would be introduced right as HOV’s voice booms over the speakers: “Allow me to reintroduce myself, my name is…” that moment comes exactly 20 seconds into the track. Yes, I counted…multiple times. See, I told you I could obsess over details.
But it’s not all about the entrance music. It’s about wanting to be involved. Fellas, this is your day, too. It’s perfectly OK to have an opinion during the planning process. I don’t know the first thing about flowers, or color schemes, but when my fiancée asks me to look at a flower arrangement I try to give my honest opinion. And, because I’m putting up a good chunk of my life savings for this day, I’m for damn sure having an opinion about something!
I will say this: I’m lucky. L’Oreal and I have similar tastes and feelings about a lot of things. We both knew the venue had to be in Baltimore and it needed to represent us as a couple, so selecting the National Aquarium in Baltimore was a no-brainer. And she actually likes my sense of fashion! I’ve never heard her say: “Babe, you’re wearing…that?” Which brings me to my next point: the groom’s attire.
At what point did we as men stop caring about dressing nicely? How on Earth did we allow ourselves to be dressed in poorly fitting rental tuxedos and plastic shoes? Your wife-to-be is standing next to you in a gown that was created for her. There is no way I’m outfitting my groomsmen in these rental travesties. Besides, you can buy a nice black suit for the same price as a rental, and have your tailor trim it to fit your body. A simple Google search for “tuxedo alternatives” leads to a plethora of resources for the groom-to-be.
Blogs such as The Outspoken Groom, The Style Blogger and Men’s Style Pro all offer tips from wearing the tailored black suit to getting a custom fitted tuxedo. I chose the black suit option. With all of my groomsmen having to travel to participate in the wedding, it was the best option. Tailored black suits, white shirt, bow ties, and black shoes, boom…done. And when it’s all said and done, my guys will get to keep their suits. Everybody’s happy…even my slightly obsessive personality!
About L’Oreal and Jeff
L’Oreal and Jeff met in May 2008, became friends and went on their first date at the Pittsburgh Zoo & Aquarium in May 2011. They currently reside in Chicago and are planning a fall 2014 wedding in Baltimore with a LOT of purple details. Despite rooting for rival NFL teams, they love laughing and having fun together and look forward to getting married!