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5 Signs You’re in A Poisonous Relationship

One indisputable fact about relationships is that choosing the wrong partner can prove to be one of the most disastrous decisions of your life.

If choosing the wrong partner can be directly correlated to a low quality of life, then the opposite must be true. The presence of a healthy mate in your life should yield dramatic and measurable positive results. In addition to the emotional joy you feel, your overall quality of life improves when you align with someone who has the same vision of you and is equally capable of contributing to bringing that vision into fruition.

Recognizing toxic qualities in an individual is imperative. A toxic relationship is frequently:

  • unsupportive
  • unrewarding
  • unsatisfying
  • draining
  • stifling and/or
  • unequal

Below you’ll find five signs of a poisonous relationship.

1) Unrealistic expectations

One common trait of a poisonous relationship is the magnitude of expectations that your partner places on you. In a healthy relationship, both partners communicate their needs to one another in an attempt to request support from their significant other. A toxic partner will weigh their lover down with burdensome tasks and create an environment where their lover feels overly obligated to meet their demands despite how outlandish they may be. If your partner is exhausting your resources, commanding your time and attention, and/or causing emotional stress when you do not meet their expectations, the likelihood that you will be able to sustain in such environment is minimal.

2) Constant criticism

A sure sign of a toxic mate is the manner in which they speak to their partners. Do they affirm you in an empowering manner or is their language used to tear away at your self esteem? The way a person speaks to you is a direct indication of how little they think of you.

3) They take advantage of your vulnerability

Do not allow the eagerness for an intimate connection to blind your judgement. If you get in the habit of pouring your heart out to people too soon, you run the risk of leaving yourself open to individuals who have ill intentions. Slow down. Take time to get to know an individual before revealing too much about yourself. Some people only seek out people who are “damaged or broken,” because they are easy to manipulate and desperate for affection.

4) Envy

Envy is a feeling of discontent and resentment stirred by desire for the possessions or qualities of someone else. Anytime envy or extreme jealousy is present in a relationship it is dangerous. Sadly, a partner who feels like you have everything and they have nothing can cause tension in your relationship. Similar to jealousy, a controlling and possessive partner can leave you feeling timid, anxious, mistrusting, and emotionally battered.

5) Lack of Advancement

Somewhat challenging to wrap our minds around is the reality that just because your significant other is not dragging you don’t doesn’t mean they are not toxic. The bottom line is that your significant other should clearly have a positive impact on your life. If you are in a relationship and your life is in the same place it was when they entered it, this is cause for concern. Do not get acclimated to a love arrangement that serves you no purpose.

Jazz Keyes is a community activist, poetess and a nationally certified Life Purpose and Career Coach. She has devoted a great deal of her time and energy on mastering the art of communication in order to create healthy, dynamic, long-lasting relationships. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @jazzkeyes.