The idea that sexual desirability or seduction is about one’s outward appearance couldn’t be more wrong. Sexiness and seductiveness has less to do with your physical beauty and more to do with the energy you emit.
When women are seeking ways to attract men, they have to understand the power of their aura. Men may not understand that it’s energy they are enticed by, but they are able to recognize when there is something about a woman’s presence that intrigues them.
There are other ways you can be sexy, but the most important factor in seduction is confidence. This is not a “Women have to change who they are to be more sexy for men” article. This is an, “Ooze so much confidence to the point where you want to date your damn self” kind of article.
There are many ways a woman can tap into her sexual energy or seductive powers. Here are five.
1) Learn how to hold your own.
Whether your motive is learning how to be sexier to attract a partner or simply a pressing desire to feel prettier and more vibrant for yourself, one thing you must know how to do is hold your own! There is nothing more attractive than a woman who can stand firm in who she is. Being seductive is the ability to walk into any situation or environment and command the space. It is not about seeking attention based on outward appearance. True seduction is silent. It’s having an alluring presence that makes people want to know who you are.
2) Be visually appealing to your damn self.
Seduction is more than visual stimulation. It is an appeal to the senses, including scent and touch. Being seductive charges you with the responsibility of stimulating someone else into awareness. However, you cannot expect to be seductive to someone else when you don’t even turn yourself on. Your physical appearance is how you speak to the world before you open your mouth. What does your appearance say about how you feel about yourself? This is not about attracting a partner, but about loving yourself in such a glorious fashion, you naturally call a partner to your life who wants to do the same.
3) Let him come to you.
You don’t have to chase a man who wants to be caught. When you learn to master the energy you transmit, you can call a man to attention without having to be over dramatic or run the risk of coming off as desperate. Learn to let men come to you. Keep in mind: maintaining a sense of mystery is sexy. A man does not need to know everything about your whole life story the moment he meets you. Slow down and keep a cool composure. Learn to let things grow organically.
4) Understand that no one compares to you.
Do be intimidated by other women. Build your confidence high enough to know that there is no comparison. If another attractive woman enters the room and suddenly you become small or start comparing yourself to her, your insecurities have not been dealt with. Your date will notice. The goal is to get to the point where you can give another woman a compliment because her beauty is not a threat to you.
5) You cute, but you can kick it though.
Most men will admit they appreciate a woman who can both turn up the sexy when it’s time, but also chill like the homie. Don’t be so focused on being the perfect woman that you forget to just be yourself. A good sense of humor and a down-to-earth personality are unimaginably seductive.
Always remember that when all else fails, there is nothing sexier than a woman who knows who she is and is unapologetic about it. Be comfortable in your natural beauty, but don’t hesitate to glam it up when the time comes. If you are looking for ways to be more seductive or bring your sexy back, all you’re really saying is that you lack confidence. Work on building that self-esteem up and watch the prospects flock. Like they always say, “The sexiest things a woman can wear is confidence.”
Jazz Keyes is a clinical psychologist, poetess and a nationally certified Life Purpose and Career Coach. She has devoted a great deal of her time and energy on mastering the art of communication in order to create healthy, dynamic, long-lasting relationships. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @jazzkeyes.