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Lessons Learned from ‘When the Bough Breaks’

Last night, I had the privilege of attending an advanced screening for the film, When the Bough Breaks hosted by Fashion Fair Cosmetics.

Despite getting an Obsessed, Fatal Attraction, The Hand that Rocks the Cradle vibe from the film’s trailer, I still wanted to see it. And it was entertaining.

Sure, I could go into detail about the movie’s plot, but I won’t spoil it for you since it just hit theaters today. What I will do is lay out a few important lessons learned from the film, and detail how you can apply them to your love life.

1) Take Your Time.

The film, starring Morris Chestnut and Regina Hall as John and Laura Taylor, is the story of a well-to-do couple who cannot naturally conceive a child. So they hire Anna Walsh (Jaz Sinclair) to be their surrogate…and they do so rather quickly.

Because of their rushed decision, they do not fully get to know Anna and what she is capable of. They, well mainly Laura, just decide that this will be their only chance at being parents. If they would’ve taken their time, they would have seen that Anna was not all that she led on to be. The couple would have noticed that Anna was not displaying her true nature, but her representative — like many do when they want to make a good impression on someone. Relationships can do nothing but benefit from time, patience and observation, but this couple wasn’t here for that. Do not rush — especially when deciding to get the know someone romantically.

2) Communicate with your mate no matter how it will make them feel.

There were SEVERAL instances in the film where John could’ve avoided a lot of BS if he would have just told Laura what was going on. He kept very pertinent information about Anna and her dealings away from his wife because he “didn’t want to ruin the experience” for her. Eff that. If something is up, your mate needs to know — especially when it comes to a third party. Keeping secrets from your mate in the name of protection is never OK, and like you’ll see in the film, it always comes back to bite you in the a**.

3)  Know when to call it quits.

The Taylors brought a lot of drama on themselves by simply ignoring signs of when it was time to hang up the clothe. They outright refused to allow divine intervention to work its magic and as a result, their marriage all but fell apart. In relationships, sometimes it’s best to move on. While breaking up will come with its fair share of emotional pain, staying in an unfulfilling union is even more damaging. There is a difference in giving up and just knowing when to move on. The latter is guided by wisdom, while the former is usually rooted in fear and ego.

Shantell E. Jamison is an editor for EBONY.com and JETmag.com. Not confined to chasing headlines, this Chicago-based writer, radio personality and cultural critic is also the author of “Drive Yourself in the Right Direction: Simple Quotes on How to Achieve Your Best Self.”