Love is Not Personal, it’s Business!
You can take this piece of advice straight to the bank today, no postdate.
The aura of confidence releases pheromones so seductive. It possesses the chemical capability to buckle the knees of even the most poised and stony woman. The fragrance of self-assurance is so potent to the point where it introduces the individual wearing it before they can extend their hand and offer their name. Women love the smell of a man who has his sh*t together and I am sure the same applies to men. We are a power starved nation drawn to anything that resembles vigor and godliness.
While it is evident that men and women are lust crazed for strength, stability and loyalty, we face an interesting dilemma. If everyone is combing the market for their powerful counterpart, why are power couples so scarce?
I offer this explanation:
In a society haunted by superficial objectives such as collection of material possessions, the notion of what it means to be a power couple can be easily misconstrued. Timelines and newsfeeds oversaturated with filtered pictures of perfection can give the impression that true power lies in the accumulation of “likes.” Moving further and further away from reality, we are raising children who will categorize successful couples based on their ability to match outfits and pose cute for a selfie.
Adhering to such low standards of success, we give very little respect to couples who are legitimately striving to obtain and/or maintain true opulence.
Unlearning the ideologies of the new world, we have to revisit what we have been taught about what it means to be a #powercouple. Refusing to focus on insubstantial matters, influential couples while uniquely different in their own rights, share one commonality; they understand that power is a mental state and BOTH parties must have the attitude of supremacy in order to ascend to new levels.
A power couple consists of two individuals who share the same life vision and the same relentless devotion to bringing that vision into fruition. Power couples have found a harmonious balance between passion and purpose. They personify the idea that, “Two heads are better than one.” We are told that it’s lonely at the top for a reason. Occasionally, you have to isolate yourself in order to focus on your goals. Often, while on the pursuit to happiness, love, family, and friendships can take a backseat. Power couples successfully and strategically defy these odds. They have uncovered the secret to having it all.
What do #powercouples know about love that other couples don’t?
Self-preservation is Key
Many of us have a corroded mindset that suggests looking out for yourself first is selfish. Wrong. Your first priority has to be your own well-being, especially if you hope to be of value to anyone else. Powerful people understand that love and relationships are an asset to their life, not a necessity. While we have a world of people aimlessly seeking someone else to complete them, there are a select few who are not expecting love to fill their emptiness.
We misprice our worth when we discount our value based on the validation or lack of validation of another person. Powerful individuals are constantly striving to improve their product so they can increase their purchase cost. Moreover, power couples do not feel the need to dismiss their own personal desires for the sake of their partners. They understand that you have to dedicate time and energy to being excellent by yourself before you can partner with anyone else.
When you have your life in order, you become defensive of anyone who threatens your happiness. Be conscious of who you are and what you offer. When you are truly convicted that you are exclusive merchandise you won’t allow anyone to destroy what you have worked so diligently to construct. Power couples are protective of their most prized possession, their peace of mind. Anything that threatens their sanity has to be eradicated immediately.
Love Don’t Cost a Thang
The number one goal of any business owner is to minimize expenses and maximize profit. An ambitious individual is not willing to take a loss of any kind for the sake of love. With the end goal always being to gain, driven people know that dating someone who is not on their level is a liability and not worth the risk. A power couple consists of two individuals who have decided that love should not put them at a deficit, but at a surplus.
Play With Your Own Potential
For the sake of driving this point home, let’s compare finding a mate to searching for a job. In this scenario, there is a job seeker and a company that is looking to hire. Some of us are in relationships with our employees. We have initiated an intimate relationship with a person who requires us to act as a supervisor and not a co-partner. An individual with a CEO mentality is not spending their time grooming someone else’s potential.
Power couples are composed of individuals with presidential mindsets who have made the decision to look for a partner based on their achievements, not their potential. Powerful people are not looking for a subordinate, they are interviewing references, conducting background checks, analyzing performance reviews, examining financial portfolios and verifying credentials before making the decision to merge with another boss.
Grow or Get Stepped Over
If this sounds harsh, you are not ready for the sacrifices that come with being influential. In a power relationship, you are not allowed to be complacent, lazy, or disengaged. If your partner’s nonstop push for success creates tension, animosity, or resentment, instead of pride and motivation, you represent another obstacle in that person’s journey towards prosperity.
Love is not personal, it’s business!
When you are employed at a company, you are hired to perform a specific set of duties. You are held to high standards and the expectation is that you will represent that organization’s mission and brand.
Individuals in a power couple relationship hold their partners to the same stringent standards. Too often we are relaxed in what we require from our intimate partners. We don’t require them to be exceptional. Entering into a relationship with a person who has high expectations requires you to show up and deliver excellence daily. You cannot request a paycheck without doing the work!
Grind First, Cuddle Later
There are some relationships that survive solely on minimal intellectual stimulation, sex, and socializing. There is nothing wrong with having an emotionally charged relationship that is fueled by feelings, however, when we examine couples who are rising into true positions of power, you can imagine that their relationship is more focused on action than affection.
Never dismissing the need for romance, connectedness, and intimacy, but power couples understand that goals cannot be achieved while laying in the bed. When there is work to be done, you have to grind through. These couples find celebration in accomplishing their goals collectively!
The Only Thing Worse Than Wasted Money Is Wasted Time
In an effort to preserve your time and magnify your outcomes while in a position of authority, you have to delegate and outsource some of your responsibilities to others. The same mindset can be seen amongst power couples. In order to truly be efficient, every moment of time has to be dispersed wisely. It’s not all work and no play, but power couples are cognizant of how and where they spend their time. If the aspired result is to elevate you and your family to the highest level, there will be times where you decline the offers to be careless and free so you can center in on the task at hand.
Power couples make no excuses! In a relationship that is designed on the blueprint of mental, emotional, financial, spiritual, and physical liberation, there is no space for “shoulda, woulda, coulda.” In strong relationships, each person holds himself and their significant other accountable. You cannot hope to be paramount, but allow yourself or your partner to deliver mediocrity. Excellence is a habit and commitment to superbness is a lifestyle.
The good book says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” –2 Corinthians 6:14
If for a moment you remove the religious connotation from this scripture and simply look at it as a life lesson, there is a rich message to be absorbed. You cannot move in light while holding hands with darkness. They cannot exist in the same space simultaneously. The same applies to healthy relationships. In order to produce riches abundantly, both parties have to be aligned and progressing in the same direction.
True #powercouples are equally yoked. When a relationship is unbalanced, one of two things must happen. The person performing at the lowest level must rise to the occasion or the dominant partner must step down and pull the other person along. This process makes sense to the average couple because we have adopted the idea that relationships are strenuous and hard labor.
Power couples enter relationships with an entirely different mentality. Yes, relationships are work, but we have to be laboring towards a common target. If the goal is to fuse your life with an equally driven and ambitious person, seek out someone who is already in pursuit of their goals and willing to persevere by any means necessary, not someone who is looking to be carried through the valley.
Love is combat. To win the war, you put two soldiers on the front lines. You do not go to war with someone who will coward behind you for safety! I pray you all seek and find everything you need and then some. Move in love…Until we meet again lovers and friends. Be well. Be prosperous. Be passionate.
Jazz Keyes is a community activist, poetess and a nationally certified Life Purpose and Career Coach. Keyes supplies clients with the necessary tools and techniques to awaken their divine energy, heal their open wounds and create an aura of love, compassionate and tranquility. In 2013, Keyes was named “13 People to Watch For” by Rockford Register Star and in honor of Black History Month 2014, Keyes was recently named a“Neighborhood Hero” by ComEd’s Power of One Campaign. Keyes in currently pursuing her Masters in Clinical Psychology and hopes to one day be a best-selling author and motivational speaker. She has devoted a great deal of her time and energy on mastering the art of communication in order to create healthy, dynamic, long-lasting relationships.