Love Advice: Balancing Act
Relationships, regardless of their capacity, are meant to uplift, empower and motivate. But sometimes when we’re going through a breakup, struggling to settle into a career or arguing with a friend, we may find ourselves experiencing a gamut of emotions that leave us feeling vulnerable, unappreciated and unloved. Here are a few tips that will you to stay grounded in your strength — or nurse any human being back to it.
On Dating …Remain an Individual
When you become too dependent on your partner, that is when the relationship is trouble. You don’t want to spend time away from him or her. You only want to spend your free time with him or her. You don’t like him or her spending time away from you. What exactly did you do before you were with your mate? Perhaps you had friends and hobbies you enjoyed. Don’t change all of that just because you’re in a relationship. After some time, you will begin to miss those friends and hobbies, and you will blame him or her for losing them. It’s great to be so in love to the point where you love spending time with your significant other, but don’t forget that you were once an independent being. That part of you was probably something that attracted him or her to you in the first place. That’s far more attractive in the long run. Don’t put all your eggs into one basket. No one likes to be with someone who is clingy.
On Friendships …In Friends We Trust
Your relationship with your friends is probably one of the best that can ever be created. There is no other bond you will gain where the individual will stand side-by-side with you through whatever trials and tribulations come your way. True friends, without fail, will go out of their way for you. They will drop everything they’re doing and devote their undivided attention for you, even when things around them are falling down. We often demand more of our friends then we do from ourselves, and for that very reason, it is important to celebrate the beauty, love and loyalty that our friends provide.
On Career …Know What You Want
Deciding on a career may be a hard task for today’s young, urban professional. The task of figuring out what you want to do and how you want to leave your mark on the world can be a tad bit daunting. Instead of spiraling into a whirlwind of endless questions, one must ask one simple question: Do you know what you want? It’s easy to move around from job to job in search of fulfillment. However, before settling into any career, you must be clear as to what you want to do and why. That way, it is easy to build resources and relationships with individuals in your industry and/or profession. In knowing what you want, you’ll be able to also argue why you deserve that promotion, that raise and, most importantly, the assurance of knowing that you are working toward not only the life that you want, but the life you deserve.
With these tips, may you be reminded of the importance of playing a leading role in your life — a role infused with strength, ambition and tenacity.
Tiana Jorman is the creator of the lifestyle blog, GetTheT.com. Tiana combined her unparalleled talent of writing with history and received a B.A in cultural studies.
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