Beyond Adult: Making Better Decisions
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Sharon, a single, financially independent, educated professional woman, meets the charming, funny and gorgeous Devin while out on the town with her girlfriends at the club. The chemistry is intoxicating; they almost immediately begin an intense sexual affair. In a matter of weeks, Sharon falls deeply in love with “her man,” dreams of spending her life with him, and becomes pregnant—all before discovering that Devin is married with three children and at least one other mistress. After a period of anger and devastation, she resigns herself to single motherhood and life without him. Late one night, Devin shows up at her door, full of apologies, declarations of love and promises to “make it up” to her. Sharon lets him in and resumes their affair. Two years and an additional pregnancy later, her only communication with Devin is her ongoing battle to collect child support.
Joshua, a hard-working, responsible, blue-collar brother, meets Samantha, an attractive, God-fearing woman, in church. They become friendly over weekly Bible study, and eventually start dating, while remaining celibate out of respect for their shared Christian beliefs. As a demonstration of his love, Joshua gamely tries to satisfy Samantha’s appetite for four-star restaurants, designer shoes, and expensive jewelry—even taking on overtime at work when he can. When Samantha has a crisis—such as the impending repossession of her car—she counts on the reliable, devoted Joshua to bail her out. After six months of dating Samantha exclusively, his savings exhausted and credit maxed out, Joshua is laid off from his job. He notices that Samantha seems more distant, though when asked, she insists nothing has changed. Two weeks later, she ends the relationship. God has led her to the man He has chosen for her (Roberto, a member of their church’s ministerial staff who owns a successful real estate business). Samantha has agreed to marry him.
What these all-too familiar (if you don’t know these people, you’ve probably been at least one of them) scenarios have in common is that they are comprised of adult choices that everyone involved had every right to make. More importantly, they graphically illustrate that there is a world of difference between an adult choice and a grown decision. Consistently making better decisions require far more than merely achieving adulthood and declaring, “I’m grown!”
Teaching the difference between adult choices—what we have the right to do—and grown decisions—that which is in our best interest to do—is the mission of the Grown Zone, the multimedia initiative that we launched through our company, A2Z Personal Growth Enterprises, just over a year ago. Today, the Grown Zone can be found on a number of social media platforms, including Twitter, Facebook, Google+ and Instagram. The Grown Zone Show on BlogTalkRadio has gained a loyal listenership for weekly live broadcasts at 12 noon EST each Saturday, as well as a podcast available via iTunes and apps for Android devices. And we’ve experienced growing demand for our live Grown Zone events, including our Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat at Chicago’s Welcome Inn Manor, November 22-24, 2013. (Check the end of this post to learn how you can win a free, complimentary registration for this weekend retreat.) And now, we are proud to expand the territory of the Grown Zone to the audience of JET, America’s No. 1 African American newsweekly.
Beginning with this post, we will be contributing weekly Grown Zone blog posts to JETmag.com. As a reader of this blog, you’ll quickly learn some of the key principles (including several of those which were violated by Sharon, Devin, Joshua and Samantha in our examples above) of moving beyond adult choices to healthy, grown decision-making. Our goal is to take on some of the poor decision-making, misguided advice, unproductive beliefs, and yes, ratchet behavior, that seems increasingly accepted and even celebrated in popular culture, despite the human destruction (physical, emotional, psychological and even financial) left in its wake.
Living in the Grown Zone is about recognizing that adulthood is not the final stage of personal growth, and that your past is merely the floor—not the ceiling—on the potential of your life. We will also argue for you committing to what’s in your own best interest, even if that requires you to question and reject much of what you’ve learned from your parents, your culture, your peers, and even the religious doctrines you were raised to believe. We will explore everything from failed relationships and fatherless children to family dysfunction and self-destructive financial habits, offering solutions based on an agenda of “More Self Love, Better Decisions and Healthier Relationships.”
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Zara Green and Alfred Edmond Jr. are co-principals of A2Z Personal Growth Enterprises, producer of The Grown Zone. Zara is a speaker/trainer & author. Alfred is an award-winning journalist and expert on business and personal finance. The couple, both “Do-Better Fanatics”, lead sessions on personal growth, self-love and resiliency, healthy relationships and “grown” decision-making at live events across the country.
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