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Grown Zone: Don’t Be a Casualty of Casual Sex

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If you’ve ever been a victim of your own physical desires, i.e. you’ve slept with someone who looked good (or good enough), with no relationship beyond the encounter and no real knowledge of anything about him or her, you are a casualty of casual sex. As adults we are free to share our bodies with whomever we want.  However, as Grown people, we need to be more careful about who we allow to share such intimate access.

There are reasons we fall into this not-so-grown trap, and ways to avoid making a decision based on carnal desires. Here’s what you need to keep in mind:

Men have a predisposition to gratification. Men’s erections need little more than a breeze to appear on the scene, and early in life adult males usually have a habitual need to release sexual tension, often resulting in him doing stupid things in search of sexual release.  As they get older, without a conscious commitment to Grown standards of decision making, this includes having sex with women to satisfy this need (or to affirm their own misplaced sense of “manhood”), often without regard to emotional attachment or consequences beyond the sex act itself.

However, this should not be taken to mean that men aren’t equally at risk when it comes to engaging in casual sex. Men become casualties of casual sex just as often as women do. If only we could get this message (and a copy of Loving In The Grown  Zone) to every young male, especially those targeted as “lottery tickets” by their athletic prowess: Just because a woman is willing to let you hit it, doesn’t mean you should.

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