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The Importance of Black Men Loving Black Women

The welfare of certain segments of our community will always provoke an emotional response from me—people of color, women, children, the elderly—but for the most part, I consider myself to be a fairly chilled spirit. In fact, 99% of the time I am completely unbothered. I mention my calm temperament in an attempt to help those who will read this article to understand just how enraged I must have been to consider throwing my laptop across the room.

I was on a late-night social media prowl when I should have been working so I blame myself. As I was scrolling through my newsfeed for what I am sure was the seventh time, I came across a video shared by one of my FB friends.

I let it play. Within the first 45 seconds, I could feel my body getting hot. Ignorantly, I let the entire video play. By the third minute mark, I couldn’t figure out if the tears forming in my eyes were from anger or sheer disgust. For almost ten minutes, I watched a White woman shamelessly bash Black women. The saddest part about her tactless, fabricated and racist remarks was the Black man who sat next to her and mockingly encouraged her rant.

A link to the YouTube version of this video has been attached for your viewing pleasure, but if you are unsure that you will be able to exercise restraint and not snap completely off, let me give you a quick synopsis and spare you from wasting 10 minutes of your life.

A link to the YouTube version of this video has been attached for your viewing pleasure, but if you are unsure that you will be able to exercise restraint and not snap off completely, let me give you a quick synopsis and spare you from wasting 10 minutes of your life.

According to this woman, Black men prefer White women because:

● Black men can pull hair during sex without the tracks slipping
● They ride for their men and Black women leave them when they are broke
● We carry ourselves in a way that turns the Black man off
● We have 5 or 6 kids by multiple Baby daddies
● We can’t pay our bills because we spend all of our money on weave
● We don’t have father figures
● All of the other races are taking over

You get the picture.

As livid as I was, my anger subdued when I realized that my frustrations were misplaced. How could I possibly be mad at this White woman? She was spoon-fed a scoop of #alternativefacts by a self-hating Black man. If he, meaning the Black man as a whole doesn’t honor us, how can we possible be upset that people outside of our community don’t either?

Black women aren’t angry because the Black man decides to date women of other races. By all means, do whatever serves your heart. I can only speak for myself on this matter, but there are some attractive White men in this world, and I for one am down with the #SwirlLife. Ultimately, who a person decides to love is their choice.

The issue that we as Black women face is the disappointing reality that too often when the Black men does decided to date women of other nationalities, they feel compelled to bash and demean us in the process. Leaving us to question, “How hard is it to love her without hating us?”

This annoyingly ignorant couple serves as the public face for what has become a regular occurrence: Black men demeaning Black women. Daily, I come across social media statuses and meme posts from Black men saying ignorant sh*t like:

Black girls, you better step your game up because White girls are taking over.
White girls getting ass now. Black women, they are coming for your spot?

Other women are often used to threaten our security or shame us. When our bodies are held in comparison to features of other women, not only are we made to feel like sexual objects, but his teaches those who are watching the behavior of the Black men that we as Black women are nothing more than a fat ass. The practice constantly forces us to defend her self-worth and piece together our deminished self esteem.

Latina girls are crazy, but sexy as hell.

The “angry black woman” stereotype was created by the BM, and to date, it is a belief that is perpetuated by the black man. Statements such as these suggest that it is only the BW who is unattractive and bitter when she expresses frustrations.

“I want an exotic chick.”

The Black woman a.k.a. the mother of civilization is never revered as exotic. Society views everything and everyone else as being more glorious than African women. When the women that Black men praise look nothing like their mothers, sisters, aunts, etc., it challenges our understanding of beauty.

True enough this blatantly disrespectful commentary is not reflective of every Black man, but tragically it doesn’t dismiss the truth. Black women are the only group of people who are subjected to cruel and harsh chastisement by the men in their nation. Whether you choose to date a sistah or not is neither here nor there, but for the sake of building a strong nation of women, Black men, is it too much to ask for a little courtesy?

Never forget that it was and is us who aide in your safekeeping, both publicly and privately, socially and politically. There has never been an attack raged against you where we were not on the front lines, ready and willing to give our lives for yours. Behind the scenes, mothers, aunts, sisters, and wives are pushing forces behind the visions and dreams of YOU.

You will never understand the devastation we experience watching the Black man degrade, demean, and destroy the self-esteem and the sanctity of the Black woman while praising and glorifying women of other races.

This is painful. So, yes Black man, the black woman may appear to be angry, but consider this, maybe she is scared. Maybe her hard exterior is the only shield she has to protect her in a world where she is always under fire. So the next time you are considering making a comment about us that will contribute to the madness, replace those words with a “thank you.” Never forget that without the Black woman, there would be no you.

Jazz Keyes is a community activist, poetess and a nationally certified Life Purpose and Career Coach. She has devoted a great deal of her time and energy on mastering the art of communication in order to create healthy, dynamic, long-lasting relationships. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @jazzkeyes.

  • Lo Little Pampu Mac

    Very interesting and thoughtful article.

  • Aaron

    ” We carry ourselves in a way that turns the Black man off” <– THIS ALL OF THIS.

    • Roger Feinstein

      It all boils down to that statement

    • Ms.

      Black men, pull your sagging pants up. Black men are the main group of “thugs” who grab around on the streets with their underwear showing. Black men wear dirty, stinky , unwashed underwear. I know this because let’s face it, when black men wear their pants sagging (which is all the time) we see their sh!!t stained draws.

      Black men do not wash their clothes regularly and walk the streets often wearing wrinkled, dirty pants and wrinkled shirts. I see this every day.
      Now let us talk about black men’s faces and hair, shall we? Blk men normally have ashy, dirty faces and thick, ashy lips. This is due to a lack of hygiene. Blk men also sport a host of disgusting hair bumps all over their chins and on the backs of their necks, which is sickening to look at & looks unclean.

      As for hair, blk men usually don’t even have any. For a group of people who love talking about weave, they need to invest in some for their own heads. And when they do have hair, it remains uncombed, dandruff-filled and peppercornish.

      As far as economics and social status, blk men have none. Looking at a blk man reminds blk women of a life of poverty, strife, and hardship.

      As far as attitude, blk men have the worse stank attitudes of all groups of men. Here is the proof : Ask yourself who is getting killlled more by authority figures in the U.S. than any other group. It’s blk men and the reason is due to their stank and volatile attitudes. Blk men talk too much and that is o e of their main problems, as displayed everywhere on social and mass media.

      • Ms.

        Let me continue because a lot has to be said. In regards to black men’s horrible attitudes, this is the sole reason why black men are gunned down by authority figures.

        If you notice, blk men complain constantly that black women will not SUBMIT. However, blk men need to learn how to SUBMIT to law enforcement and other authority figures . Instead, we all see blk men popping off at the mouth constantly with law enforcement while guns are drawn on them. Or we see blk men run after law enforcement has told them to surrender.

        Blk men are not oppressed in the U.S. so don’t be fooled, people. Blk men could have their own economy and businesses if they chose to. Blk men do not want to. Simple as that. Nor do they want to own their own basketball or football leagues. What blk men want to do is work for non blk men so that they can date the women from these other communities. Blk men threw blk women under the bus to try to fool people into believing that blk women are so terrible that Blk men had no choice but to seek out other women.

        Blk women, blk men do not love you. You must see that. If BLk men loved you, they would show you, as love is an action word. Shed the blk man like an old skin and move forward to prosperity. Leave the blk man to be sh0tt in the head by law enforcement and move on. It’s not your problem and frankly it never was.

        • andya

          hold on, I have to disagree with the first thing you said. Black men are gunned down for their horrible attitudes? you are a horrible human being to think that. Many black men have been gunned down for being black. for their “horrible attitudes” when actually they know their rights and none of that shit is fair.

          • ShikokuPrincess91

            They are gunned down for their crimes and trying to harm the police.

            They deserve it every time they are animals.

          • Gokü

            Black women deserve it too. Lolol you know black whoores lead in police vicyims and black men are also killing you too,we will win the gender war

          • EP

            There is no gender war. If we die y’all die simple as that. That’s why abortion clinics our put around black neighborhoods. And if they encourage y’all hating us and killing you. Well we will give them exactly what they want. So y’all try that if y’all want to. I thinks it’s funny say these things; if only your mom felt that way. You wouldn’t be saying this. Damn she fucked up…

          • Gokü

            So. I’d rather us all be dead. Black women are a disgrace

          • EP

            Lol! Just like you are. Someone needs to put you out of your misery. You know what happens when there is a sick dog around ya put it down. Just walk around or do some stupid shit the police aka kkk will handle that for you!

          • Jena Kelly

            Who gives a shit? As long as they’re gunned down, I don’t need a reason. These bastards kill a black woman, I believe the stats are, every 19 hours, That’s hundreds a year. They kill our children as well, and you want me to be sorry when they catch a bullet. Well honey, NOPE, nopeity, nope, every nope in NOPELAND. They are on their own…..Good Luck!

          • ShikokuPrincess91

            Yes!

          • Gokü

            Lmao black women wonder why they get bashed now i see. I didnt bash yall but i certainly will now and since we kill yall i hope we get rid ofbyou all before the white cops get rid of us lolol

          • B.C.F Qaan

            Exactly

          • Achilles

            I’m a black man who has worked my whole life not to end up as one of the men you described but I’m going to tell you the cold hard truth. Black women are just as bad as those men you described. Black women will jump in a man’s face yelling and daring him to hit her then immediately play the victim when he does. Black women will have many children by many men then say that black men are worthless and need to take care of the kids with her. I worked in a restaurant at 16 and was so close to yelling at a pregnant black woman and her mom who were talking about how much they could make off child support money and how to spend it on themselves.
            Black women will say they’re the victims but go out and bang every hood and thuggish dude they can find. Black women will yell and call black men devils but can’t tell the difference between independence and attitude.
            You want black men to man up then stop going for the men who have a 10% chance of making it big, stop telling your sons and daughters about how struggling is good, stop complaining about how you don’t have it good when black women are more likely to go to college and graduate.

          • Ashley Baker

            Innocent blk men are catching bullets…The ones being killed by police havent killed anybody so your point is irrelevant…

          • Kimberly Toure

            CORRECT! He is INSANE & BLIND! WOW! COON ALERT!

          • meecepeece

            Exactly! And besides this, people of ALL races are treated horrificly by police if they are – poor, know and demand their human rights and dignity, look ” differently ” tattoos, nose ring etc. Are women who are not stereotypically beautiful or cute or have huge chest size, are homeless of ANY race, act like a gang member of any race. Cops are judgemental , paranoid, skittish jerks from hell. If you are fearful for your safety you should never choose a job that has danger. Cops need to all be cleared out. Then new, educated , liberal and non racist and good people replace them.

        • Interesting view. I see your points. I would say that that must be the reason why my father moved us away from the city many years ago when he saw it going downhill. He raised us in the suburbs to raise us and peaceful environment. He reads this too respectful all join the military go to college be smart and hardworking and that’s how we came out.

        • meecepeece

          Ummm black guys are killed by police because cops are a bunch of power tripping, racist jerks, who all deserve to be fired and reeducation is needed immediately so police learn to show ALL races equal respect, not how big they are with a gun.

          • B.C.F Qaan

            Right

      • Mike Richard

        But most of the thugs and other types of bad black are raised mostly by single mothers. These are the kids that end of to be nothing in their lives because their mothers picked a thug for a father. So I would like to think the strong independant black women that don’t need a man to help take care of me and my kids. I’m the mother and the fathers. You are all doing a great jobs keeping the jails and the graves packed with fresh bodies.

        • EP

          Doing a great job keeping y’all alive. Cuz they could’ve aborted the black men that make these stupid choices disputes the consequence; blk woman do there best since the dad ain’t around anyway which is not there fault by the way. It takes two to make a baby not one but we always talk bout the women???

        • Ashley Baker

          Why do you have to have picked a thug for a father just because he’s not there for the child? Your kidding me right? So if your not a thug your automatically a good father ..?

      • This is certainly a small portion of black men, however, this is not profile of my black male friends. We are the complete opposite of this. We are well dressed. We are clean-shaven, ex-military, current or ex police. We live in stable homes not apartments. We take care of our women and children. Respectable people come from good respectful homes.

        • ShikokuPrincess91

          Not a small portion.

          And you are an outlier. You don’t represent the majority of black men.
          Yes every black man online is perfect whenever we have this discussion.

          Yet in real life you see loser after loser. That is why I will never date black males. Whites only for me! Of course I’m Asian so maybe it doesn’t sting as much, but still. You guys need to feel the burn and enforce standards on the other bm.

          • Kimberly Toure

            shikoku”princess91 My brother is married to a Japanese woman. You and your disdain for an entire race of men make you appear to simply be looking for a come up. I can fathom the desire to improve your social position but you should face the looming reality that caucasian males are no longer the highest standard.

          • I suppose I should not have used “small portion” and you should probably not say “the majority” considering NEITHER one of us have not met the majority of the the approximate 500,000,000 million black men in the world lol (2015 est. “black” population 1.2 billion).

            It’s all subjective and based on experiences. I meet great and horrible people of all colors shapes and sizes. People are people to me. I think the color things is pointless considering no one can define where black (even though its brown) starts or ends. People really judge on gender, education (or lack thereof), social class and visual appearance (clothing etc).

        • Ashley Baker

          And usually the upstanding blk men only date white women Because they feel as though all blk women are classless and ghetto…so between that dead, in jail or gay we feel like we are left with the scraps and thats when you get good blk women who feel that way…

      • meecepeece

        This is an incredibly racist generalization being made abt black guys, and no better than when black men generalize black women and turn away from them. All black people need to start acting respectfully toward one another, STOP being gangs and trashy, and stop using uneducated speech on Purpose when we know blacks are just as smart as anyone ELSE! You are not fooling ANYONE with all that fake stupidity and fake bad grammar.

        • Ashley Baker

          Thank you…This is not who we are…this is who they’ve created

      • Ashley Baker

        We are talking about the clean ones…the successful ones…or atleats Iam..let white women have the bums..

      • Jason Johnson

        You are right, all the bastard son’s of the single black “goddesses” and “Queens”.

    • Jena Kelly

      You carry yourselves in a way that turns us off. Let me tell you why. You are failures all over the world, and other men can hand you your ass anytime they want to.

      • ShikokuPrincess91

        Yes!
        They are eternal failures.
        Even in Japan they try to pull the same thing as in America.
        “You racist mama” says the Nigerian tout who won’t take no for an answer.
        As far as I’m concerned black males should not be in Japan.

        • Kimberly Toure

          Why would Black men not be in Japan… They are looking for easy ass just like all other men and you prove that if a male is white they will certainly get what they are looking for. You have totally showcased an ignorant mindset here. You have presented yourself as nothing more than a whore who prefers white males. This is sad. I am ashamed for you.

    • Unreal

      Aaron and everyone in the thread below needs to ask themselves why they seem to only come in contact with black people with trashy and low class attitudes. Maybe look in the mirror to find out why.

    • meecepeece

      Exactly some of my point made above. Carry yourselves respectfully, with class and style, with education and proper volume in public, with good parenting, like a black women is absolutely capable of just like ANY woman of any ethnicity is capable of! Instead of resorting to terrible attitude. You are better than that mess. And men will begin to realize that fact IF more black beautiful women ACT like the good people they are rather than trashy.

  • Tforequity

    This piece voices a portion of my concerns with that idiotic video. It fails to mention that
    1. Many Black women are very well educated- so we all can’t just be stupid, irresponsible and lol trying to trap our men with babies

    2. Black woman are known to stick by their men in hard times, as opposed to Black men, who often cheat

    3. The cause for Black women having to step into mommy and daddy roles was because, due to societal issues and personal choice, Black men were not there to raise their children.

    Do not shame or tear down Black women for being the strongest ones in the room and shame on Black men for abusing and then abandoning them.

    Side note: I was a little disappointed by this article because of the grammatical errors. An entire paragraph was repeated…

    • Agreed

    • Jen

      I have to say that stereotypes are largely inaccurate, and are often perpetrated out of fear; it’s insulting and denigrating to the person the stereotype is directed towards. The way a person acts, beliefs they hold, values, etc., are individualized and have a lot to do with how they were raised, and this is not due to race, which is a social construct anyway. People do use race to justify a whole lot of nonsense though.
      Just want to mention that my ex was a cheater and he was white, so it is accurate to say that SOME men cheat, and clearly not just black men, and these men have their reasons for doing so. Some women cheat too. I’m sure there are black women who cheat on their significant other, I surely know white women do. But there are also plenty of intact black families, white families, mixed families in the world.
      Have to agree, the grammatical errors are distracting.

      • Tforequity

        I never said all black men cheat, especially not in exclusion to other people (men of other races or women) cheating.

        Just as there are both trashy white women and scamming white men, none of my statements were made to place one race over another. However, I think it’s important to realize and identify that this piece is in response to a video that bashes black women. It is also important to point out that it is common for black men in particular to bash black women when they date white women. Worse than that, black women are not only receivibg messages that who they naturally are is not worth loving, but also that women of other races “outdo” them. For these reasons, I focused on black women and the actions of black men in my comment.

        Every coward has a reason for cheating, real men and women just admit that something’s wrong. Let’s stop excusing hurtful actions and hold people accountable.

        • Jen

          Fair enough.
          I will be honest, I couldn’t even get through the whole video. It was embarrassing to watch. I don’t think anyone should be trashing anyone, but wow, the level of ignorance…
          Anyway, you are so right, I don’t think anyone even knows what accountability is anymore these days. Everything is everyone else’s fault.

        • Kimberly Toure

          noone can cheat on you if you are not MARRIED! PLEASE LIVE IN REALITY! PLEASE!

    • Kimberly Toure

      STOP having children out of wedlock says the “Black” woman to the other Black women! Having illicit sex and procreating outside of marriage and subsequently being dumped is not a state of abandonment. Marriage clearly comes BEFORE a baby. Most other races know this. It is only the Black female in America who keeps endeavoring to blame the males they slept with and produced bastard children. The rates for bastards are WAY TOO HIGH for Black women! STOP!

  • Opinion from a “Black man” that has dated a few women of different cultural backgrounds and happily married to a beautiful smart hard working light skinned American woman of Irish decent.

    ●Black men can pull hair during sex without the tracks slipping
    MY RESPONSE:
    not going to lie. I love a little hair pulling. Wife of 16 years still loves it.
    ● They ride for their men and Black women leave them when they are broke – I doubt this.
    MY RESPONSE: Many black women are strong and supportive. Strong and weak is not just related to culture/color. It is also your nature vs. nurture.
    ● We carry ourselves in a way that turns the Black man off.
    MY RESPONSE: Some times. But this is also not a color thing. Turnoffs are Turnoffs.
    ● We have 5 or 6 kids by multiple Baby daddies.
    MY RESPONSE: So do many white women. I can name more who are white.
    ● We can’t pay our bills because we spend all of our money on weave.
    MY RESPONSE: My white wife drops $200 on color and keratin. What’s your point?
    ● We don’t have father figures
    MY RESPONSE:
    Good family roles is a big issue in the poor urban black community, however I think it is not very intelligence single out black women on this.
    ● All of the other races are taking over
    MY RESPONSE:
    What the does this even mean?

    • Unreal

      There are lots of white women wearing weaves and extensions these days. And damn how hard are you pulling???

  • ShikokuPrincess91

    Black men are scum!

    You need to be loyal to your black women and leave Asian girls alone. we do not want you monkeys changos doujin!

    Black men are history’s losers. Quit whining on slavery! You got enslaved because you deserved it! You wouldn’t build and take care of your women and children for 50,000 years and you got your ass whip because you are the weakest gayest men. The bottom butthole of a gay white.

    Black men you do not like your women. Why not? They are beautiful, educated, nice, good friends to me.

    Truth-you don’t like them because you want to be them!
    You jealous of them being feminine! You want to take penis yourself!

    • Kl

      You must have been hurt!

      • ShikokuPrincess91

        Scared but not hurt fortunately.

        Every time I was terrified a white man or black woman came around to protect me. .

        • Kimberly Toure

          Your thought processes are WEAK darling. Your hatred is absolutely unwarranted. All type of men endeavor to hit on me and I do not spew this kind of filth about them. Your heart seems tainted and I pray you look further than your limited experiences for clarity. Seek a lucid mind state as this is healthier.

    • Try living other places in world.

      • ShikokuPrincess91

        I lived in America four years. I have seen you in your nature.

        • Me in nature is camping, hunting, riding my motorcross bike and fishing.

    • Kimberly Toure

      shikoku”princess”91 just because many Black males are fed up with the behaviors of Black women in general this does not make them homosexuals. From what I have researched Asian males are deemed the most feminine. You are embarrassing yourself. Just the fact that you say these things about Black men and claim to have Black female friends is proof that the Black female is evidently destroyed in general.

    • Unreal

      If you hate black men so much why are spending your time here? Its Jet magazine boo.

      I see a bitter Asian man trolling on the other end of this fake profile.

  • JJ truth

    Nice try at brainwashing Jet Magazine (which is now owned & under white control). Black women know that the sorry, white filth in the video has had it in for black women for a long time. Her day of reckoning is at hand. Such low class, whores from the underbelly of the nation will have to face the consequences of their behaviors. Once the truth comes out it will not be hidden. THE SAME GOES FOR BLACK MALES LIKE THE ONE IN THIS VIDEO. Trashy white women have ALWAYS been jealous of black women. Self respecting black women are NOT threatened by the words of this obviously backward, nasty, white trash female. Its laughable that black men dig into the white garbage can to elevate used up whores and think it will anger black women. It only presents a sad picture of how much self hate black males carry. Black women want no part of that kind of mental dysfunction and blatant disrespect. Black me nhate black women. Black men are insecure and fragile even. Its been like a long abusive marriage held together out of necessity for the kids sake. But now the kids are grown adults. So the divorce is on. The end for black america is here. The future of black culture is doomed and its all the fault of black men.

  • Dino Dare

    Our hair isn’t fake. It just stinks. I got my first haircut at the age of 10. I was planning on never cutting it because I dreamed of having straight hair. Then I found out it was a genetic thing and that my family and usually my race has the horrid hair that grows UPWARDS! I would love it if I had curly or straight or ANY shaped hair that grew down because then I would grow it out, I hate braiding my hair. If I could have good looking long hair that I didn’t have to braid or make look dumb, I honestly would. Plus, braiding is a painful, smelly mess that takes hours upon hours! I honestly wish I could just brush it and call it a day… I was gonna put up with it for my entire life but when my hair got to the length where you had to spend entire DAYS of your life dedicated to getting it done which lasts for like a month if you don’t sleep crazily, I got fed up with it.

    • Vanelle Smith

      Wait now. Because my hair doesn’t stink and grows very well and I’m a Black woman.. I think you’re really white. Either that, or you need to change you diet, maybe eat a lot healthier.

  • Kimberly Toure

    Black women are actually at fault for the stereotype of the angry Black woman. I am a “Black” woman yet because I behave in a very civilized intellectual manner people refuse to even recognize that I am American born and raised. They insist I am from elsewhere or was raised by a caucasian mother… ANYTHING accept that I am an American “Black” and that is a shame. Instead of constantly complaining and BEGGING Black men to be kind to you stop the self hatred of wearing hair not representative of your birth state. Stop sleeping with strangers. RESPECT IS SOMETHING YOU GIVE YOURSELF! Be the example you wish to see and that example will speak for itself. I constantly meet angry, unhappy, immoral Black women and I am tired of this walking stereotype. LEARN TO LISTEN BLACK WOMEN! Everyone is putting in their two cents to tell you the truth about how they feel now that they can hide behind their computer screen so LISTEN! LISTEN and apply reason. READ MORE! STOP being who they say you are please PLEASE PLEEEAAAASSSSSSE! Also just get yourself together by international standards so you can compete. Ignore the rubbish and focus on making yourself high quality. I am married to an Asian man with a masters degree who worked for NASA so it really is not some special exclusion of Black females. ALL MEN LIKE WOMEN WHO ARE KIND AND GENTLE AND CHASTE AND INTELLIGENT! ALL MEN LOVE FEMININITY! If you are not feminine PRACTICE! If you lack education READ! If you can’t keep yourself from illicit sex why would anyone marry you… STOP BEGGING AND IMPROVE! ALL MEN HATE FAKENESS so stop lying to yourself that all that weave and makeup is making you sought after! It is NOT!

  • Gokü

    Lmao,you had me until you said you are for swirl life,swirlers are self hating black women,you can say you interacial date but swirl is a buzzword that lets me know you bash black men when you date out too and are only hurt you get the same.

  • Unreal

    lol. She looks like a drag queen and her description sounds far more like every white woman you see at Walmart with black babies in tow with baby daddies no where to be found.

    But for real, it’s time for us to stop letting them determine our self worth.

  • Vanelle Smith

    Wow. Look at the gender war here on this comment thread. It’s the Black mans fault, it’s the Black woman’s fault. Wah, wah, wah,. We stay losing as a whole. Yall need to chill and read a Francis Cress Welsing book. This divisive gender war has been going on for a long time, and needs to be addressed. We need to create forums to sip some damn tea, nurture each other, shed the ignorance and heal as a family. This hatred has been born and bred from the dark history of slavery, and we still suffer from it but NEVER want to address it, ( also a form of social conditioning by (White Supremacy/ racism), / Yall are really mentally ill blaming one another when there is a puppet master here controlling and manipulating this gender war. Wake up and stop being bitter towards each other. I don’t know about you, but I love my Black man, myself, our beautiful BLACK babies and other Black families I see around here. Yall need to meditate… LOL

  • meecepeece

    A lot of black women are being turned against due not to their skin tone or looks, but rather due to the horrible ways in which you act. You yell everything you say top of your lungs in public where some decorum is calledfor instead. Some of you dress like sluts but expect to be treated like a lady. Certainly some women of all ethnic groups dress like sluts as well, but tey too are getting disparaging comments. If a white woman starts acting a fool you better believe she gets ridiculed as well by others and men of her race. It is not just you. However I am constantly in public because I do not drive so I ride public transit options, I walk a lot, I am in stores often and generally see public crowds constantly, unfortunately for me. And there is a disproportionately large amt of African American and other black ethnic women, causing a scene in public, yelling, cursing and talking too loudly, giving everyone around them attitudes for no reason. And many blabk women are extremely racist against women of any race other than their own and absolutely black persons can be racists too. Racism is not limited to just white people! Whites are also not the only rce who have ver made the crime of slavery happen in history. Black people may forget that fact too. That’s beside the point here however. I watch or hear black women on buses or trains, in stores, berate shopkeepers, treat wait staff like crap, embarass the men who are with them often with their terrible attitudes, loudness and bad language. They tip cheaply, they treat others badly. I have watched as they hit their children rather than use proper methods to control kids. I am by no means saying whites never also act badly, I am saying out of a crowd mostly you see black women act inappropriate ways. I think these specific women are causing all black women to get a bad reputation among other races as well as among teir own men. It needs to stop! Because all the decent, well spoken, classy black ladies who use their indoor voice, and dress beautifully, who discipline their children properly without abuse, and treat their men like people-not ATM machines to be ossed away when the cash is gone, Etc. Are suffering due the negative actions of many others of your ethnic groups. It goes for African American males as well. Those who commit criminal acts, or use crack or meth and who refuse to work or cannot find work, who hit their womenEtc. Are causing the decent, stand up men of your community who take care of their kids, and wives, and work hard and have zero criminal history, to be viewed as a stereotype unfairly. Because a lot of racism stems from actions, not actual race. It even holds true for me. I hate loud people and unfortunately a lot of the blacks I know are far too loud in public. I hate when someone uses the P word or C word, yet I am forced to overhear those words from both men and women of the black ethnicity groups way too often compared to other groups. I have to remind myself that African American does not equal bad behavior, and these people do not represent ALL blacks. Just as I know that the black man who once raped me, does not at all make every black guy a rapist. Of course not! That every black woman will not automatically be a loud, rude, man hating overbearing beast like some are. And others will act well, and treat others with respect. But you should NOT need to have to search out decent people of any race! If the majority rather than a minority of ANY race will act and live a decent life, and not cause people to group them together like they tend to-ven amongst their own ethnic group of men it seems lately, things can change. By the way, I am not whitemyself, I am Mexican. And I see sexist jerks among my own race all too often. Its a cultural and society mistake that needs to end! Not because of skin color, anymore than the blacks who act stupid are that way due to skin, of course they are NOT! They are eing raised wrong, though for certain. So are Mexicans. So are many Southern whites! They keep turning out redneck, sexust, racist people for a REASON and it is not their color, it is social issues. Parental stupidity passed on. When and if more black women are seen acting like the high class people they can be, the views toward them ought to change accordingly. If it does not, then it is the men who are not seeing reality

  • Jennifer Lange

    I don’t condemn it I just don’t understand it. The last recorded lynching was in 1981. Slavery, Jim Crow, segregation, white flight, gentrification and I can keep on has taken place over the 500 odd years or so that black people arrived in the US.

    Millie Jackson said in one of her songs “white folks give you a chance to make a little money and you fools are giving it all back.” that was off her album “Feeling Bitchy”. Michael Jordan wrote in his book that he was prejudice as a teenager because of the way his grandfather was treated at work in some hotel in WIlmington, NC. Yet he marries one (I know she is Cuban but I would bet my life that she identifies more with white). In addition, I believe if Micheal Jordan wasn’t rich her father would have disowned her. But I digress.

    To put life to meaning listen up I will try to school you. Let’s take Diana Ross for example. I only use her because her life situation is the poster child for what I am trying to explain. Diana Ross grew up in a two black parent home. Her father was a working class man and they lived a modest life. Diana Ross hits it big makes money marries two white men have children. Her children will benefit from her legacy the money she made. It’s debatable how much money her husband’s have/had. The children marries, dates have children with white women or women other than black. Now when diana ross passes and her children passes the money that Diana Ross dug her way from poverty will be back in white hands especially if her grandchildren continue the pattern and marries non african. Capiche. This is what it will be life for all of the stars, athletes and black people that are hidden but are self made millionaires. When they marry white women especially, the child will grow up in a white world financed by his black father. He will in turn marry outside his race further diluting black blood. No one will know or remember the black person that started the family wealth. Three of diana ross’s five children married white and their children could walk away from their family change their name and no one would ever know they were related to diana ross. That being said the only one of Diana’s five children can be undeniably classified as black. His father is a black jazz musician that has his own money. Diana’s other daughter does not have any children. That is what is meant by losing black wealth.

    How can you marry/date have children with someone who is raised to believe that he is inherently better. I don’t understand that because at the end of the day and I know that white woman/man will begin to see you the same way in which she/he sees all other people of african descent. A black dumb a&& Nigger.

    At one point I hung out with white people never dated one but it got old being told how different I was from other black people especially the black women. I guess a white supremacist would view that as a compliment not an insult of an entire race of people (white privilege),

    This is what I don’t understand.

  • Kimber Vic

    Black men turn to white women cause they allow their man to cheat on them.

  • Paul Deane

    That white woman is a cracker.

  • Paul Deane

    That white woman is full of hate.

  • B.C.F Qaan

    I’m sorry But I kinda agree with her she makes a logical point

  • Smiley J Gomez

    So true. It turned me off when I went on a date with a Black man who bashed Black women. I thought he was a trader to his own race. I am white and hispanic. I don’t date Hispanic men but I would NEVER bash them. My Father is a Hispanic man. I just happen to like darker skin but would never talk badly about my white or hispanic heritage. Some Black men need a reality check. If I was a man I would date dark skinned Black women. I think they are exotic and beautiful. Black women have been very kind to me my whole life. Love where you came from. Sometimes people get bitter and want to blame other people for one bad experience. Black women are the most beautiful.

  • Jasmine Morris

    It’s funny how these days black men are obsessed with mixed race women like myself. It’s like they feel bad for not liking their own kind, so they have to stare me down like an animal hunting their prey.
    If not, then they fall for white women.
    Not saying people can help who they fall for, but yeah.

  • Destin Wilhem

    The most irritating part about all this is that every single word I’ve read is cancerous.

    I’m a black man. I don’t sag my pants, I dress rather nicely as a matter of fact. I’m majoring in criminal justice, I’m working on finally getting my license and moving out from under my mother’s roof, I have a job (working on getting two), and as it happens, I have a slightly above average level of intellect.

    I’M STILL SINGLE.

    Don’t give me that bull about how I havent tried hard enough or how I need to let love come to me. Every word I type, somewhere some black girl is giving a guy who doesn’t deserve it the blowjob of his life.

    I admit, black men have their faults. It’s super difficult to date beca

  • Jason Johnson

    Last sentence stated, “without a black woman there would be no you”..Im assuming the you is addressing “black males”. Kind of a silly and confusing statement. I attribute everyone existence to God..But as far as in a sexual context and having babies just also remember that without a black man there would be no black woman born either.

  • Jason Johnson

    Black women don’t understand the power of submission and charm to seduce men. Instead, they are Queens, goddesses and too “strong” for the average hard working or “lame” black man. They need a dope boy or thug to fill complete for action and attention.

  • Jason Johnson

    Black women are least married race, the highest rate of STDs, highest rate of childbirth out of wedlock, pay billions of dollars to put white women hair down their back and a net worth of $5. But we focused on a black man and white women making YouTube videos?

  • gantzuka .

    Wow
    some of you especially the black ones are some twistedly fucked people.
    I’m African American myself and I have dated outside my race and I have
    dated black women too. Being born in the south the only option was to
    date someone of your own color. But guess what? I dated a black woman
    and she cheated on me. Once was enough for me to kick her to the curb. I
    tried getting with other black women and because I was not a thug or
    dressed in the latest trends. I wasn’t good enough. I’ve dated outside
    my race and black women still cause me trouble. I got dumped because
    girlfriends black friend told her I was cheating on her. All just cause
    her boyfriend which was Caucasian cheated on her.

    Another thing my
    mother is single and never been married. She raised me by
    herself mostly, but I haven’t joined a gang or been arrested. I
    currently staying in the south and black women cheat just as much as black men. Yall
    try to act all holy than thou, but are just full of shit. Black married
    women be all up in the church be cheating and act you all faithful and
    shit. Yeah blow that smoke up another brotha ass who ain’t wise to the
    worldly trappings of the skin color.

    I don’t have anything in common
    with black men or women, other than skin color. So I go where I am
    welcomed and that makes me seem like a traitor to my own supposed race.
    Ah damn well, I can’t really be blame. I’m not really all that attracted to my own anymore.