Marrying the Game: A Forever Fiancée?
Unfortunately, I’m not always home to catch reality shows during their premiere night, so I love that VH1 stays on top of airing the shows shortly afterward.
One of the returning shows that’s always on my radar is VH1’s “Marrying the Game,” which stars rapper The Game and his estranged fiancée, Tiffney Cambridge. The show debuted last season, and was somewhat anti-climatic because the couple cancelled their wedding.
Well, actually Tiffney nixed it because she felt his behavior was too…well rapper-like (you know, partying; traveling with women, besides her; and allowing his posse to set up shop in their home). And he felt she was too damn respectable (she be reading) and demanding (she wanted the crew to stop hanging out in her living room)— at least that’s my interpretation.
This season, the couple is co-parenting and affianced from a distance. She’s moved back into her condo, and he’s home alone. On a recent episode, we see Tiffney return her ring to the man she once promised to marry, later telling her relatives that she was at a crossroads because she didn’t want to be a “forever fiancée.” Now her honorary auntie, Ms. Janice put it simple: You knew who he was and you had his babies — you need to go ahead and take that title, sweetie.
Watching the show, I always have mixed feelings. Sometimes I wonder whether Tiffney is totally delusionally optimistic. She’s hitched her heart to a younger buck, who loves partying, p***y and stacking dough. Yet, she expects him to shake it off. Similarly, Game was seemingly attracted to Tiffney’s laid-back, yet strong girl-next-door swag, but he expects her to live a music video treatment lifestyle of partying and bullsh**ting. This begs the question, why would this work?
I’ve always believed that you should only say yes to a marriage proposal, or extend one, if you like a person as-is. In their case, it seems neither does. She’s waiting for him to turn into Professor Olgilvy (the clean-cut teacher from “The Parkers”) and he wants a woman who’s equal parts Draya (“Basketball Wives LA”) and Claire Huxtable.
I like the notion of not being a forever fiancée. The whole point of getting engaged is to choose. It’s not a layaway plan, or a stalling tactic. I always thought it was weird when people were engaged for years. Stop leasing, and just buy the darn thing. If you know what you want, there shouldn’t be an issue.